Archive for Conflict

How To Have Healthy Conversations About Hard Topics in Your Church

by Steven Carrizal  Conversations are a cornerstone for social interaction and communication. In the context of a church family on a Sunday morning, conversations are how we learn about and share the events of our lives as we greet one another. We talk about the weather, the game, the weekend, and our children. We make […]

Leadership as Immune System

by Jon Mullican Peter Steinke has equated leadership to the body’s immune system. According to Steinke, leadership establishes the boundaries of what is of self, what belongs in the body, and what is foreign – what is not of the body. Leadership is responsible for identifying behavior that is allowed and behavior that is prohibited. […]

The Post-Conflict Show

By Amanda Box – It was Saturday, with Sunday fast approaching. Due to travel and family emergencies, I was the last minister standing. Having several things to accomplish, while getting dressed, I texted my husband, Chuck, who was in the kitchen. “Can you take Hazel for ice cream or something so I can finish running […]

Navigating Conflict on Leadership Teams: From Control and Ambiguity to Trust and Shared Mission

by Carlus Gupton   Leadership conflict does not usually explode overnight. It simmers. It appears in tense meetings, guarded conversations, stalled decisions, and quiet frustration between elders and ministers. Most teams care deeply about the church’s mission yet find themselves navigating unclear authority and unspoken expectations. The question is not whether conflict will surface, but […]

The Best Time to Plant a Tree is Twenty Years Ago

by Amanda Box   As I was scrolling through social media, I noticed a post that asked, “What is one skill you wish you had developed earlier in your career. Well over half of the 66 responses were underneath the communication umbrella, with conflict at the top. In a similar post, I saw a list […]

Conflict: Our Story

by Amanda Box and Jerry Neill   Ahhhhh, conflict on a ministry team, the unexpected team-building exercise nobody signed up for, but everyone has to survive; because even people who agree on eternal salvation can disagree about continuing to print a bulletin or going entirely digital; when two or more are gathered in His name… […]

An Effective Template for Conflict Resolution

by Jon Anderson   Conflict is a natural part of human relationships, even among people of faith. Whenever two or more individuals care deeply about something, differences in perspective are bound to surface. What matters most is not whether conflict arises, but how we choose to handle it. Too often, we slip into power struggles […]

Handling Conflicts with Grace: Leading by Example

by Greg Anderson   Several years ago, a church member asked to meet with me. We scheduled a time and sat down in my office. I didn’t know the reason for the meeting. Our interactions had always been positive—so I had no reason to expect what came next. After a few minutes of exchanging pleasantries, […]

The Best Time to Plant a Tree

by Amanda Box The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago; the next best time is today. Many of us grew up in a church environment where people weren’t allowed to disagree, question the status quo, or offer a different perspective. When people have structures, language, and strategy to handle each other […]

Facilitating Mediation: Understanding The Peacemaking Possibility

by Jon Mullican Most people work hard to avoid conflictual situations. Conflict creates discomfort. Conflict means to most that someone wins, and someone loses; to avoid losing or losing relationships, we sidestep the issue, the conversation, and the confrontation. Churchgoers follow this pattern well. Who wants to fight at church? Who wants to get into […]

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